The essays

The List of Ten

Kathryn Dunn

Published on: 11/10/2026

Write down the last ten things you said no to, and leave the reasons off.

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Confidence Is Not a Feeling You Wait For

Kathryn Dunn

Published on: 04/10/2026

You're waiting to feel like a woman who'd just go. That feeling is a receipt. It gets handed to you afterwards, and it's made out of the afternoon itself.

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The invitations that slowed down on their own

Kathryn Dunn

Published on: 27/09/2026

You haven't fallen out with anybody. You've just declined a lot, and every single no you gave went to a person who then quietly decided not to ask you again.

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Nobody Announces the Things You've Stopped Doing

Kathryn Dunn

Published on: 20/09/2026

There was no last time, or there was and it didn't feel like one. Every no you gave had a good reason behind it, which is why you've never gone back to count.

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