There's a list of things you don't do any more.
You didn't write it down. It got longer anyway.
The meal out, because you can't be sure what your stomach will do. The networking morning, because you'd be on your own for the first twenty minutes. The bit where somebody asks what you do, and you make it sound smaller than it is.
Each one had a good reason. That's what makes the list so hard to see.
I write one short essay a week about that list, and about getting things off it.
When you sign up, I'll also send you Twelve Minutes Before You Walk In. It's a free twelve minute recording to listen to before you go into anything hard, so the noise settles first.
Send me Twelve Minutes Before You Walk InA few short emails in your first fortnight to help you get the most from the recording, then one essay a week, on a Sunday evening. Nothing else.
What's on the list
Three things come up more than anything else.
Your body
If you have Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), or a body that's stopped being predictable, every plan has a question mark on it. So you stay near home. You skip the meal. You say you're not hungry. I don't write about the medicine here. I write about the life around it.
The room
You're fine once somebody's talking to you. It's the walk in, the coffee you don't want, and the twenty minutes before anyone mentions work that undo you. So you go late, stand near the edge, and leave early.
Saying what you do
Somebody asks. You've got a good answer. And out comes a smaller one, said quickly, with a little laugh at the end.
The same thing sits under all three. You've stopped trusting your body, or your nerve, or both, and staying in has started to look like good sense.
What the essays do
Every essay starts in an ordinary moment. Somebody suggests something, and "I'd better not" is out of your mouth before you've heard the whole question.
Then it looks at what's going on underneath, in plain words. And it gives you one small thing to notice or try that week. Nothing big. Nothing you'd have to be brave for.
You don't need to become louder. You need to trust yourself enough to leave the house and be there.
Start here
If you want to see what the essays are like, read one of these first.
What you get
When you sign up, Twelve Minutes Before You Walk In arrives with your welcome email. You can use it that day.
You'll get a few short emails in your first fortnight to help you get the most from the recording, then every Sunday evening, one essay. Each one stands on its own, so there's nothing to keep up with.
Both are free. If you ever want more help, I'll tell you how to work with me. There's no pressure and no catch.
Who this is for
This is for you if your body has been making your decisions for you.
If there's a room you've been avoiding, and you've told yourself it's because you're not a networker.
If you've done hard things before, and this feels different.
If you know you're capable, and can't work out why that isn't making life easier.
It isn't for you if you want hype, or tactics for fast growth.
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When you sign up, Twelve Minutes Before You Walk In arrives with your welcome email. You can use it that day. For the first fortnight I'll send you a few short emails about using it, and about what hypnotherapy is and isn't. Then every Sunday evening, one essay. Each one stands on its own, so there's nothing to keep up with. All of it is free.